You can’t become aware if you are unconscious. This is why the first step in becoming successful is becoming aware. This step will take time, energy, and effort. Whether you’re looking to start a business, change jobs or learn something new—the process of self-awareness is absolutely essential.
Most people fail to implement change because they don’t realize that they need change. It’s not until the situation has reached a crisis point that people begin to recognize that they are out of balance.
To start the process of change, you must first acknowledge that there is a problem that needs to be solved. You need to understand the problem and what you want to achieve by solving it.
Ask yourself questions like these…
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What do I know that I don’t know?
So you’ve determined that change needs to occur in your life, but where do you start? Start by becoming aware of what you don’t know. This is the first step in any new process. Once you’ve identified the problem or situation, the next step is to understand what you need to know. This is what I call becoming aware. Become aware of what you don’t know and you will never be able to take action on what you don’t know.
What am I not doing that I could be doing?
Another good question to ask yourself is, “What am I not doing that I could be doing?” You don’t want to spend your entire life not doing what you love. Instead, think about what you’re passionate about. What’s something that you’re interested in? What’s something that you feel passionately about? Think about what you’re doing right now, and what you’re not doing because it doesn’t bring you that same excitement that the thing you’re passionate about does.
People often assume that the only way to make progress is by working harder. In fact, making progress is often achieved by being more efficient with our time, rather than simply spending more hours on tasks. That’s why, on this list, we begin with “What am I not doing?” Instead of “What can I do?”
If you’re constantly running around, trying to get things done, or doing something else, then you’ll never have time to really take a deep dive and think about what you’re not doing that you should be doing. So ask yourself the question, “What am I not doing that I could be doing?” and really focus on what you’re not doing.
Ask yourself this question. If you aren’t doing something, why not? Chances are, there’s a reason why. You’re not doing it because you don’t know how. Or, it’s not worth your time. Or, you’ve already done it and didn’t like it. Or, you think you don’t have the time. Or, it’s not something you know how to do.
What would I need to know before I can act?
This question helps you determine whether or not you can make the change you’re considering. Think about what you need to know before acting on any change. A question like this will help you assess whether you’re ready to take action if you’re even ready for a change in the first place. For example, you may decide that you’re not ready to start working on your book, but you are willing to begin research to get the necessary knowledge needed to publish a book. Or you may decide that you’re ready to quit your day job, but need to learn a new skill first. This question will give you an idea of what you should be prepared to learn before you can act.
What are my strengths and weaknesses?
Before embarking on change, you must first understand your strengths and weaknesses. By learning about your skills, talents, knowledge, and abilities, you can understand where you are strong and where you are weak. Then you can apply these strengths to the problem or challenge at hand. You can begin by thinking about the problems or challenges you’ve had in the past.
If you know your weaknesses and strengths, you can see that you are already in a position to make some progress. Your weaknesses show you where you need to improve. Once you have identified your weaknesses, ask yourself how you can improve on them. What can you do today to overcome these weaknesses?
What are the most important things that I need to focus on?
Another way to think about this is to ask the question: What’s the problem you need to solve today? What’s the top priority? Once you have a sense of what’s on the top of your plate, it’s time to get busy solving it. Focus on one thing at a time.
What are the five most important things that I need to do today?
In our fast-paced world, where everything seems to be changing all the time, it can be hard to keep up. It’s easy to forget to take care of our bodies, our minds, our relationships, or even our homes and gardens. One way to help keep yourself organized is to make a plan for your day. By doing this, you can give yourself a head start. Once you know what needs to be done, you can decide what’s most important and what’s not.
What is the biggest problem that I need to solve?
The biggest problem people face in changing their behavior is that they believe that the change they need to make is too big or too complex. They feel paralyzed by the thought that they can’t possibly change their ways. This fear of change keeps people from making positive changes in their lives, and prevents them from becoming happier and more successful. In this case, it’s important to start by asking yourself, “What is the biggest problem I need to solve?”
What am I doing that doesn’t serve?
You need to be aware of your own personal habits. What kind of things don’t you do or say because of some belief? Ask yourself this question: Are there things that I’m doing or saying that don’t serve me and others?
What Are You Tired Of Doing?
Do you feel like you’re doing the same old thing day after day, week after week? Maybe you’ve been working in your office for the past five years, and your routine is fairly stable. Or maybe you’re in your 50s, and your job has always been “same old, same old.”
If you’re sick of doing something and you don’t like how it makes you feel, that tells you that there’s something wrong with the way you’re doing it. If you can identify the problem, it’s easier to fix than if you ignore it.
One thing I find helpful to remind myself of every now and again is this quote by Thomas Jefferson: “If you are tired of your life, change it.” When I say “change,” I’m talking about a change of the self. Not change of circumstances. You know, things like losing weight, getting organized, or finding balance. Those changes are all fine and dandy. But the real question to ask yourself is: “What am I tired of doing?” And if you’re tired of doing that thing, do something new.
What’s Missing In Your Life?
When you’re making changes in your life and looking to improve in any aspect of your life, it can help to ask yourself, “What’s missing in my life?” You have to be clear on what it is that’s missing because that’s what you’re going to go after in your change efforts. By asking yourself what’s missing in your life, you’ll be able to determine your purpose or meaning. When you discover your purpose or meaning, you’ll have a clear destination to get to. You’ll also find that your purpose is a catalyst for all other areas of your life.
What Will Be Different When You Have Everything You Want?
In my experience, most people don’t ever feel satisfied. We are always striving to make improvements in our lives and become more successful. But there is always room for improvement. We need to be constantly aware that things could change for the better. One of the best questions to ask yourself is, “What will be different when I have everything I want?” This question gives me insight into what I could do if I had all I wanted. If I am not satisfied with my life as it is now, I need to figure out why. I may discover that I am not happy because I am making excuses about why I can’t have everything I want. Or, I may discover that I want more because I am greedy.
What Do You Really Want?
We all like to believe that we know exactly what we want in life. But, if we’re being honest, we don’t know why we want it or how we’re going to get it. So what do we really want? When you really know what you want, you’ll be able to figure out how to make it happen, says John. If you aren’t sure what you want, then ask yourself, what is it that I want to get rid of?
In addition to this question, I’d recommend you consider three more:
1. How do you want to live? (I suggest asking this to determine if you have a “purpose” or “passion”)
2. What are the “gaps” in your life? Where are there unmet needs in your life?
3. What is the “best version” of you?
What Will You Be Thinking About When You Wake Up In The Morning?
It’s easy to get caught up in the day-to-day chaos that life throws at us. However, if you take a step back, ask yourself, “What do I want to be thinking about when I wake up in the morning?” What will you be thinking about when you awake in the morning? If you’re honest, what will you be thinking about? Will it be about your daily routine? Or about the challenges of work or your family? It’s important to always keep these questions in mind and take time to reflect on them regularly. They’ll help you become more mindful of what’s important in life.
Who Is On Your Team?
If you’re like me, you have a group of people who support you, including your family, friends, co-workers, and other people you interact with regularly. This team is made up of people whose support you value. Their opinion matters to you. When you ask them what they think about something, it’s easy for them to say yes or no. And they will have an opinion either way. But if you ask them what they’d do in a particular situation, you can expect some real answers. People on your team want you to succeed, and they will tell you exactly what they think you need to hear to help you be successful. They may even help you figure out what the next steps should be to get there.
In conclusion, we’re always aware of a problem. We always know that something is wrong. However, when we choose to change, the problem disappears because we are no longer willing to live with it. That’s why I always tell my clients that when they choose to change, everything changes. They can’t go back, they can only go forward. So, here is your homework for today: Write down five things that you know you can improve in your life. What are those five things?
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